A couple of days ago I was talking with my groupmates about the future. We are supposed to graduate this May and we were discussing our plans. One girl said that she declined a job opportunity from a company in San Diego in order to return to the Bay Area to live closer to her family. She said that she wants family support; she loves adventures and traveling, but she prefers to be more of a homebody.
I was surprised by it, because in our field it is hard to find a good full-time job. However, on the other hand it is understandable. Finding your comfort zone is very important to succeed in life — especially when your relatives support you.
However, I’ve always thought that challenging yourself is the main point to be successful in this life. As a Russian international student, I live thousands of miles from my family, my best friends, my lovely room and my comfy bed. And I do not regret it. I got so much experience and new skills in every aspect of life, that I would not change even a bit of my current life.
“From first sight, this city — and SDSU’s campus — became a place I wanted to stay.”
Though I love my home country, my family, my friends, I just realize that I simply do not want to leave this city. It is not about the current political situation between Russia and the United States, it is about people I know here, about the weather, about the whole atmosphere. I was able to make this place my comfort zone.
Another reason I do not want to go back to Russia is because, for me, it would mean that I was defeated. If I return straight after graduation, after spending so much time in another country, it would mean that I did not achieve anything in this life. While I’ve received a lot of knowledge and experience, I want affirmation from professional society that I am worth it.
Yes, it’s true that I need much more effort to stay in the U.S. after I am no longer a student. If I do not find a job within three months after graduation, I will have to leave the country. But I am trying. I am trying to do my best to put myself in the best position.
In my language we have a phrase: “Everything that has not happened is for the best.”
I want to find my place in life in this city.
Even though, I am considering different cities in California, I still expect to come back to San Diego. From first sight, this city — and SDSU’s campus — become a place I want to stay. This area is still hiding some great places that I have not had the chance to discover in these three years. But I have been able to find my new friends, my new family, love of my life and my new home.
Anastasia Mysina is an international student from Russia. She is a city planning graduate student at SDSU.
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